32 Dr. Mark Schillinger on boys to men initiation and how to be happier, healthier and holier

“As a dad I just didn’t want to go through the rest of my life not being whole with my son.” Dr. Mark Schillinger on DADicated.com  This is one of my favourite sessions so far.  Dr. Mark Schillinger is 67 years of age, has 2 kids, one son and one daughter and is based north of San Francisco. He refers to his family setup as “successful divorced family”. Mark is a physician, chiropractor, entrepreneur, community leader and awesome dad. Mark coaches parents and mentors young men on how to have more caring and cooperative relationships. As a neuroscientist he also specialises in stressmanagent teaching doctors how to calm down their patients - something we all can use in family life I guess.  Mark’s life’s purpose is to help people achieve their true potential by mentoring them to discover their own core values and transform those values into positive beliefs and productive behaviors. 20 years ago Mark realised that his relationship with his teenage son was failing and started a programme called the Young Mens’ Ultimate Weekend. A weekend that involves other men and aims to initiate boys into manhood. The aim is to help them to get rid of all their past pain, hurt and disappointment and move on to be able to fulfil their full potential of their life going forward.  Mark teaches us relaxation techniques, how to empower boys, covers mentorship and how not to be emotionally distant. Mark shares powerful insights from his decades -long work with teenagers and families. We dive into how he managed to reconnect to his teenage son himself, how he managed to achieve a healthy relationship with his wife after their divorce and his own journey as a dad.  The most powerful takeaways for me as a dad where:  As a father find a mentor.  Be willing to relax and learn how to relax quickly. Stay calm and kind.  The powerful concept of both, and… two things can be true at the same time. For instance: you can be upset and collect yourself.  Don’t make your kids wrong but find them right.  If you can, find rites of passages to initiate your sons as men.  Working with virtues and values is powerful.  Take care of yourself first so you can take care of the family.  If this podcast helps you be a better parent, please consider leaving a review and share it with another parent or two. Thank you so much. Enjoy this session with Dr. Mark Schillinger!  Links from this episode:  The ManKind Project: https://mankindproject.org/  MDI: https://www.mentordiscoverinspire.org/  Together for Cape Town, raising 3.000.000 meals for Cape Towns underserved kids by January 2021: www.togetherforcapetown.com  Dr. Mark Schillinger:  www.ChallengingTeenageSons.com  www.ymuw.org  www.Schillinger-Chiro.com  www.AdjustingTheMindSeminar.com  For stress management and personal growth contact [email protected]  Philipp Hartmann (host):  Web: www.philipp-hartmann.de  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipphartmann2  “Being Dad” on DADicated.com:  Podcast: www.dadicated.com  Instagram: www.instagram.com/beingdad_official  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dadicateddotcom