DEENTOUR 123 - Getting to Know Yourself Before Getting Married

This episode goes beyond the romanticized views of marriage and dives into the reality that few talk about. We explore what it really means to be ready for marriage — not just externally, but spiritually, emotionally, and mentally. From setting realistic expectations to knowing yourself before knowing another, we discuss the beauty of love grounded in sincerity, responsibility, and a shared journey toward Allah.Marriage isn’t a finish line — it’s a test of who you are when no one’s watching, and who you become when Allah puts love in your life as a trust, not a trophy.DeenTour is a podcast and channel where 3 brothers showcase their love for islam through reminders, brotherhood, motivation, entertainment, and more!Let us know if you enjoyed this video and if you’d like to see more of this!!Get your Islamic trivia card game with 100 questions to learn more about Islam! https://deenified.com/FOLLOW US ON SOCIAL MEDIA!Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deentourr/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@deentourrIntro - 0:00Why do we start things with Bismillah - 0:35Todays topic - 2:00We’ve made marriage a cliche - 2:57Marriage serves a purpose but your life doesn’t depend on it - 4:25Making false promises before marriage - 5:51Understanding your priorities - 7:40The false image that society has painted of marriage - 9:21 The example of the Prophet o uh & Khadija RA - 9:41Building a relationship for the sake of Allah - 10:19It’s okay to have preferences but to be realistic - 12:28Get to know yourself before knowing another person - 12:56Understanding the position you must be in to take the responsibility of marriage - 13:44The mentality you need when you’re ready for marriage - 15:49Finding someone whos near you religiously & spiritually - 16:48Advice for sisters when looking at a man - 17:58Changing your mindset & perspective on life - 18:40Changing the way you think about dua - 20:15Thinking about every good deed as an invitation from Allah - 22:13Everything we have comes from Allah - 23:05Reflect on who you are & your shortcomings - 24:00One thing that will fix your problems - 24:25Developing gratefulness and treating each day like a big event - 28:47Think better of Allah - 30:50The reasons we should marry someone - 31:40Building a bond on sincerity & communicating honestly - 32:41Earning your rights as a spouse - 33:52Be open about who you are and what you struggle with - 35:07Showing mercy to one another - 36:36Jannah is the #1 priority - 37:29Embodying the Quran & Sunnah - 38:22