358 | How to Talk About Money in Your Relationship: Healthy Conversations for Couples

Snag Our Simplified Budget System! Good morning, budget besties! 🥳 Today, Shana and Vanessa dive into a topic we all need to address: money and relationships. Whether it’s with your partner, kids, or even yourself, money conversations can feel like stepping into a minefield. But fear not—your budget besties are here to guide you through it! From scheduling money talks to involving the kiddos, we’re covering it all. By the end, you’ll feel ready to ditch the tension and start seeing money as a team tool for success. Key Takeaways💑 Money & Your Partner: Do it on purpose: Schedule intentional time to talk about finances—no more drive-by arguments in the kitchen! Start with just 12 money dates a year. Watch your words: Use "we," "us," and "our" to frame the conversation as a shared mission. Skip “you” or “my” to avoid finger-pointing. Start with the good stuff: Dream big! Revisit the goals you had as a couple—retirement, travel, buying a home—and let that excitement fuel the budgeting process. Pro Tip: Bring data, not drama. Numbers don’t lie and help you stay objective while avoiding unnecessary emotional friction. 👩‍👧‍👦 Money & Your Kids: Start young: Kids learn best by doing. Hand them financial responsibility in age-appropriate ways. Set up a “kid budget”: Instead of an allowance, give them control of a set budget to cover their wants and needs (e.g., birthday gifts, field trips). Teach them to allocate their money wisely. Speak positively: Avoid saying, "We can't afford that." Instead, say, "We’re choosing to save for this other awesome thing." This creates a positive mindset around money choices. 💡 Shana & Vanessa’s Three Big Tips: Schedule the Talk: Make it a regular habit. A monthly check-in can help avoid surprises and build financial teamwork. Choose Collaborative Language: “We” are in this together. Always. Dream Big Together: Reconnect with those “why” moments—what’s the vision for your family? Use your goals to guide your spending and saving choices. Why It Matters Money doesn’t have to be a taboo topic—it’s just a tool. When used intentionally, it can strengthen relationships, set your family up for success, and even be a source of joy. The goal isn’t to avoid these conversations; it’s to make them empowering and productive. Ready to tackle 2025 as a team? Let’s dream big and crush those goals, besties! 💪✨ Share Your Wins! What’s the first financial goal you’ll tackle together? Let us know in the comments or DM us your questions! Remember: You’re not alone in this journey. 💕 4 Ways To Connect With Us: 1️⃣ FREE CALL: Book your FREE 20-Minute Financial Coaching Call now! Get personalized advice and start your financial journey ➡︎ https://www.budgetbesties.com/freecall  2️⃣ FACEBOOK: Become part of our Supportive Facebook Group. Connect, share, and learn with others mastering their budget skills ➡︎ https://www.budgetbesties.com/facebook  3️⃣ BUDGET: Grab our Signature Budget Template! It's your key to organizing and optimizing your finances effectively ➡︎ https://budgetbesties.com/budget  4️⃣ COACHING: Ready to dive deep into your finances? Sign up for 1-on-1 or Group Financial Coaching. It’s the accountability and guidance you need to make real progress ➡︎ https://budgetbesties.com/coaching  "I love Shana & Vanessa and this podcast is amazing!" 👈🏻 If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing our show! It helps us to reach more people – just like you – to help them change their financial future. Don’t forget to follow the show so you don’t miss any episodes! And, if you’re feeling really generous, we’d be SO honored if you would share this podcast with someone.  Click here to view our privacy policy. This description may contain affiliate links, meaning we may get a commission at no cost to you if you click & purchase!