How to Change People Pleasing Behavior

People pleasing is different from cooperation. Cooperation = connection, no loss of autonomy, requires frustration tolerancePeople Pleasing = abandoning self because it is too scary or uncomfortable to regulate through the rupture in the relationship.  People pleasing is a stress-response. It’s a behavior that the “Trickster” possum uses when the possum pathway is activated.  If you aren’t sure what I mean by possum pathway, check out this podcast/blog: https://robyngobbel.com/possumbrainI also describe the owl, watchdog, and possum brain in my free eBook, What Behavior Really Is, which you can download HERE.  Some folks call this people-pleasing behavior “fawn.”I call this “trickster” behavior.  Over on my website you can find:Masterclass on What Behavior Really Is (FREE)eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)In depth parent course: Parenting after Trauma: Minding the Heart and BrainCLICK HERE to read about The Club and join the waitlist for the next time we welcome new members*****Reframing Resistance: Supporting Caregivers through the lens of Relational Neuroscience is a 2.5 hour workshop for professionals on July 19.  Reframing resistance behavior will increase your confidence working with caregivers. Everyone who registers will receive the recording so you don't have to attend live.  Head to https://robyngobbel.com/reframingresistance for details and registration.   *******The Club is a virtual community for the families of kids with big, baffling behaviors and the professionals who support them.    https://robyngobbel.com/theclubApplications for the 2023 cohort of Being With ~ a year-long immersive and holistic program for parenting professionals ~ will open summer 2022.  https://robyngobbel.com/beingwith