The Pitfalls of Praise | POF59

“When you compliment your children, praise them for inner qualities such as kindness, honesty and perseverance so they will strive to contribute to the world in meaningful ways.” ~Toni Schutta Many parents hold the mistaken belief that it’s important to shower our children with constant praise. Praising our children is instinctual, almost a reflex.  It’s hard to hold back when your child does something new or good!  We want to celebrate them!    Yes!  Praise can benefit motivation and self-esteem, but praise doesn’t mean this is a lasting effect. Our ultimate goal should be to nurture our child’s internal motivation. We don’t want our children to become addicted to praise, motivated solely by external approval. We want them to be motivated internally. Why?  Because we want our children to want to make an effort, perform well, learn, and grow because it is personally satisfying.   When you praise your child, you want to keep these three things in mind:  Be sparing, specific and sincere.  Listen in for all the ways you can talk to your children to build resilience and a strong sense of self.  Check out the show notes for more than 25 ways to praise your child!   About Robbin McManne   Robbin is a Certified Parent Coach, author and speaker.  She works with parents from all over the world to help them build more connection and find more joy and cooperation in their parenting.   Robbin is a former ‘Angry Mom’ and for over 12 years, Robbin juggled a full-time corporate career while being a mom and wife, prior to becoming a Parenting Coach.  In her corporate career, Robbin has a background in marketing and public relations, training, and event planning. She understands firsthand how many moms struggle to balance work and family.   It’s because of her struggles as a parent that she found the world of peaceful parenting and has dedicated her life to teaching parents how to build a strong family, so their kids thrive.  Robbin’s work focuses on building and strengthening the parent child relationship so that children grow up with resilience, confidence and strong emotional intelligence.  She works with parents to help them understand their own emotions and frustrations in parenting, so they can help build their children’s sense of self without losing themselves in the process!   In October of 2018 Robbin released her first book, “The Yelling Cure – How stress less and get your kids to cooperate without threats & punishments.” Her book is being read by parents all over the world 1000,000 copies sold to date. www.yellingcurebook.com   Robbin divides her time working with her clients, speaking at events and spending time with her two boys and husband.  You can usually find her at a hockey rink or sports field cheering on her boys.  Most importantly, Robbin has changed the way she parents and connects with her sons and is dedicated to helping parents find the same joy, connection and cooperation in their families.   www.yellingcurebook.com [email protected] www.parentingforconnection.com www.facebook.com/parenting4connection www.instagram.com/robbinmcmanne_parentcoach From the podcast: 25 + ways to praise your child YAY! You did it! Tell me more! You should be proud of yourself! That took a lot of courage! Tell me how you feel? I love being with you! I love our connection. What was your favorite part? How did you do that? I feel so lucky to be your mom. You did it on your own! I...