Ep #19: When you just want it to stop

One of the biggest challenges of the pandemic for so many people has been the feeling of helplessness and suspended animation. At this point, we're all familiar with it. We've all had moments in which our circumstances were so far out of our control that it felt like there was nothing we could do but wait.This has been a huge learning opportunity for so many of us because the easy answer when our circumstances suck is to change our circumstances. Or try to. The pandemic, however, has made it clear that changing our circumstances isn't always an option. Besides that, even when we are able to change them, we carry our brains with us into our new circumstances. That means that we'll continue to have similar challenges, even in new situations.This strategy didn't translate well to the pandemic, and we all felt it.It doesn't translate well to parenting, either, but when we focus our attention on our children's behavior and how it needs to be improved, that's exactly what we're doing. We're trying to alter our circumstances to change our experience. And it doesn't serve our kids.In this episode, we're taking a closer look at why trying to change our child's behavior as our primary strategy isn't very effective, and how we can begin to approach these situations differently.--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/julia-mcgarey/support Get full access to The Blackbird Chronicles at juliamcgarey.substack.com/subscribe This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit partneredpathparenting.substack.com