Ep. #47: The Show

This week we're talking about The Show. It's the show that comes on when your child pushes your buttons. The Mom Show. The Dad Show. The Grandma/Grandpa/Uncle Show...We're talking about it because so often the action of parents taking responsibility for their emotions and learning to temper their reactions is framed by the negative impact it might have on the child. Big reactions are a source of trauma, and through big reactions, it's possible to teach your child to hide their mistakes and hide their emotions. It can also breed perfectionism and a sense of inadequacy.It's a lot.And if that's what you're hearing, but your child seems pretty unphased by your reactions and continues to push your buttons no matter what you try, the prompt to look inward and calm yourself first can fall a little flat.But it is just as important in these situations.Being the star of the show may not seem like it's traumatizing your child, but it's certainly not creating the result you want. In fact, it's creating MORE of what you DON'T want. It's also creating more stress for you, a disruption in the connection you feel with your child, and possibly even feelings of resentment towards them.This isn't what we signed up for.And it's certainly not the legacy we want to create for our families.So how do you change it?How do you turn off the show?***Are you on my email list? Claim any one of my free resources here and join the party!http://partneredpath.com/resources/http://partneredpath.com/resources/--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/julia-mcgarey/support Get full access to The Blackbird Chronicles at juliamcgarey.substack.com/subscribe This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit partneredpathparenting.substack.com