90. 5 Things Parents Do to Push Their Teen Away

I always assume positive intent, from both parents and teenagers, but sometimes we need reminders to call out unhelpful behaviors we're not even aware of. That's what this episode is all about. It'll help you recognize what you might be doing to unintentionally create a divide in your relationship with your teenager — and what to do instead. In Untangled by Lisa Damour, a book I recommend to everyone, the teen years are likened to the experience of learning to swim (and I just love a good analogy). Your teen is figuring out how to swim on their own, and you're the wall of the pool: You don't move, and they know they can always come back to you as they naturally swim away on their own, more and more. For you to stay a safe place for them to land, you need to know how to avoid pushing them away. Being aware of these unconscious behaviors is the first step, so you can make a conscious effort to take a different approach going forward. You'll learn: The 5 common ways parents push their teens away The real impact of those behaviors (that's different from what you intend) Key reframes that will set you up for a successful mindset The Raising Happy Teens small group coaching program is open now — Doors close this Friday 11/3. Learn parenting essentials, like how to talk so your teen will listen, how to set and maintain healthy boundaries, how to handle conflict, and how to build mutual trust and respect with your teenager. -- ⁠Join my free parent group⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Apply to work with me⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Follow me on Instagram