The Hyper-Independence Hangover

After years of “doing it all” - careers, crises, and the day-to-day grind - Tully and Maggie have mastered the art of hyper-independence. But here’s the thing: once you get used to carrying everything alone, it’s hard to let anyone else take the weight… even when someone wants to. In this episode, the girls dig into the emotional gymnastics of refusing help until they inevitably explode - or, as Maggie puts it, become “champagne bottles that get shaken up until they pop.” They talk about the messy reality of vulnerability when it’s not cute, the ugly side of mental health, and the awkward dance between self-reliance and letting people in. Whether you’re an A-type personality with a colour-coded calendar or just someone who hates asking for help, this one will feel uncomfortably familiar. 01:05 – Sock Merch & Chart Bragging 01:30 – Weekly Life Chaos 04:30 – On the Couch: Hyper-Independence 13:00 – Teenager to Caretaker 17:00 – Champagne Bottle Analogy 20:00 – Ned the Golden Retriever Boyfriend 22:00 – Ugly Cry + Guilt Spiral 25:00 – Microdosing Vulnerability & Asking For Help 29:00 – TeaOnHer: Are we hypocrites? 33:00 – Digital Overshare Trauma 35:00 – Shag V. Taylor Swift 39:00 – Troll Dolls & Bridges 42:00 – Therapy Homework If you enjoyed your Self Help(ed) session today, please hit subscribe, leave us a glowing review and follow us on socials at @selfhelpedpod. You can find Maggie online at @maggiekellywriter and Tully over on @tee_smyth. New episodes dropping every Thursday. #SelfHelpedPod This podcast episode is brought to you by Go-To: quality, effective skincare that actually works.