24: More Effective Parenting with Julie King

If you would love to really connect with your kids on a deeper level, but you're battling to keep your head above water with the daily demands of life as a single mom or dad, listen in today and find out how you can adopt a new and more effective approach to parenting.   Today's guest, Julie King is co-author of the book How To Talk So Your Little Kids Will Listen. After completing Law School and having had her first child, Julie became aware of how people were talking to their children and realized that most people knew nothing of the approach to child rearing that she, herself had been raised with. When her daughter was in pre-school and Julie was studying Group Facilitation and Group Development, she offered to read a workshop-style book on child rearing to a parent group at the school. Due to the demand from the parents attending this group, it continued way beyond the initial eight week period and eventually turned into an ongoing support group for the next four and a half years! Other people heard about it, so Julie was asked to facilitate other groups and this is how Julie found herself involved with something fantastic, that she had not planned on doing. Listen in and find out how Julie conferred with her old friend Joanna Faber, who was doing similar work on the East Coast and how they ended up writing a book together. You're going to find this conversation really helpful! Due to the demand from the parents attending this group, it continued way beyond the initial eight week period and eventually turned into an ongoing support group for the next four and a half years! Other people heard about it, so Julie was asked to facilitate other groups and this is how Julie found herself involved with something fantastic, that she had not planned on doing. Listen in and find out how Julie conferred with her old friend Joanna Faber, who was doing similar work on the East Coast and how they ended up writing a book together. You're going to find this conversation really helpful!   Today, Julie talks to Robbin about:   How Julie grew up with Joanna, the daughter of Adele Faber, who wrote the book How To Talk So Kids Will Listen And How To Listen So Kids Will Talk, in 1980. The influence that Adele Faber had on Julie's life. What motivated Julie and Joanna to write their book. How challenging it can be to be a mom 24/7. How her book can help parents to deal with their child's emotions- and their own. The connection between how kids feel and how they behave. How our intuition can lead us astray. The challenge of responding to negative behavior in the moment. The general orientation of her approach. How to encourage cooperation in your kids that's respectful and realistic- and gets them out the door in the mornings! Kids don't like being told what to do. Problem-solving with your kids. Her advice to parents who get angry, or battle to remain calm and think creatively in the moment. How we all need time to work anger out of our bodies. How to deal with your kid's sibling rivalry. Julie's workshops for parents, in the Bay Area. Julie's hope to develop a supportive community of parents.   Links:   Julie's website: www.julieking.org   Julie's Book's Website: www.howtotalksoyourlittlekidswilllisten.com   Robbin's website: www.soloparentlife.com – For the infographic for when parents are stressed.   Facebook Group: Solo Parent Life