Ep 86 | KonMari Your Friends and Relationships with Vanessa Van Edwards

Vanessa Van Edwards, bestselling author of Captivate, joins us to navigate friendships and relationships that may or may not spark joy.

Vanessa Van Edwards is Lead Investigator at Science of People — where she unlocks the formulas and patterns behind human behavior for hundreds of thousands of students in over 200 countries. She is the national bestselling author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding With People, available in 14 languages around the world.

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In this episode, you’ll enjoy:

• Vanessa's path to the study of human behavior from being a self-described recovering awkward person
• Vanessa's interview with Tom Bilyeu that addresses how fake or ambivalent friendships can steal your joy just as much as toxic ones
• The connection between your relationships with people and your KonMari journey
• Vanessa's tips on how to break up with a friend that addresses how fake or ambivalent friendships can steel our joy just as much as toxic ones
• The only personality trait study backed by science. Take the free OCEAN personality quiz here to see where you land and share your results with us!
• How being labeled neurotic can work in your favor and is a part of how your body responds to worry
• Vanessa's Ted Talk and research on how our hand gestures influence the way people digest the information
• Internal and external considerations that will help you get motivated to tidy by considering if it's a pain pill or a vitamin
• Why it's very important to fully explore how you worry and how you self calm

Vanessa's favorite tidying tip: Allowing herself to only watch trashy TV while she is actively tidying.

What sparks joy for Vanessa: Her newborn daughter Sienna.

To connect with Vanessa, visit www.scienceofpeople.com . While you’re there, sign-up for People School. All the soft skills you wish you’d learned in school.

Gems:
-"You should be in control of every single relationship in your life."
-"There are people in your life who you're constantly wondering, 'is this person good for me?'"
-"Our hand gestures add depth to our ideas, and our thoughts, and our personalties."
-"Our hands are our notes along with our words."
-"Everyone deserves to have relationships that make them feel good."

You can find Karin Socci at The Serene Home
You can find Kristyn Ivey at For the Love of Tidy

Special Guest: Vanessa Van Edwards.