Feelings Are Not Indictments

One of the things you have trouble adjusting to when you first have kids is the crying. Not just because it’s loud, but because it feels like you’re being stabbed in the heart. We are not meant, evolutionarily, to be good at ignoring crying babies—especially ones we are related to. It provokes us in a very deep place, and that’s a good thing. But, as they get older, you’ll have to learn how to manage this. Because it’s inevitable that your children will be upset, even cry, throug...