159: Rules,"Experts", and Your Mothering (Lies Moms Believe Series #12) with Rebekah Hargraves (Solo Episode 26)

On today’s solo podcast episode, I am continuing the podcast series based on my book, Lies Moms Believe (And How the Gospel Refutes Them) with a chat addressing the lies "My focus should be on rules and regulations" and "The 'experts' know better how to raise and educate my child than I do". I hope you come away from this episode with your mind transformed and your heart encouraged by the truths of the gospel! What I Chat about in Today’s Episode: ~The next lies covered in my book: 28. "My focus should be on rules and regulations." 29. "The 'experts' know better how to raise and educate my child than I do." ~The sad reality that legalistic, authoritarian, rules-focused parenting often leads to children who rebel and run away from God ~Why our goal as parents should be reaching the hearts of our children, not merely enforcing a bunch of rules ~The importance of heart transformation rather than behavior modification ~The importance of cultivating a warm, intimate, close, safe, comforting relationship with our children; how this as a foundation leads to our children being more receptive to our instructions and household rules ~The difference between sheltering your children and preparing them; why different seasons of your child's life requires different approaches - first sheltering, and then preparing ~Why our goal should not be to merely enforce a long list of rules, but to instead form our child's worldview around Scripture and its truth; helping our children grow in discernment for themselves as they get older ~How merely enforcing a long list of rules can lead to our raising whitewashed tombs ~Why merely listening to the "experts" is a mistake in your parenting ~The Ultimate Expert on your children, and how He knows them even better than we do, because He created them with the unique personality, learning style, and needs they have ~Why James 1:5 has to be our first step in acquiring the answers we need for any parenting question we could ever have ~And more! For full show notes, head to www.hargraveshomeandhearth.com/podcast