051 - Trust

Trust is what holds us together! We need trust to build relationships of all kinds, and we need to be talking with our teens about trust. Tune to learn how to have these conversations. Defining trust and why it matters Trust vs. Trustworthiness Trust exists on a continuum Trust is not static Trust is empowering Relationships can't be strong without trust Fostering trust in relationships Factors that contribute to a high-trust relationship Reliability Transparency Sincerity Openness Oxytocin and trust Rebuilding broken trust See our Saying Sorry episodes (9 and 10) Acknowledge when you have broken trust, give ideas for how to fix it, ask for input If your teen has broken your trust, don't say that you can never trust them again. Allow amends to be made. Trusting wisely Ways our brains function that build trust but leave us vulnerable Trust cues can be easily faked and used to manipulate Rules for developing tempered trust Resources Paul J. Zak Neuroscience of Trust,  https://hbr.org/2017/01/the-neuroscience-of-trust 10 Ways to Boost Good Feelings, https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-moral-molecule/201311/the-top-10-ways-boost-good-feelings Roderick M. Kramer, Rethinking Trust,  https://hbr.org/2009/06/rethinking-trust Esther Wojcicki, How to Raise Kids Who Will Grow Into Secure, Trustworthy Adults, https://blog.ed.ted.com/2019/09/16/how-to-raise-kids-who-will-grow-into-secure-trustworthy-adults/ Center for Parenting Education, When Your Teen Breaks Your Trust, https://centerforparentingeducation.org/library-of-articles/riding-the-waves-of-the-teen-years/when-your-teen-breaks-your-trust/ Dennis Jaffe, The Essential Importance of Trust, https://www.forbes.com/sites/dennisjaffe/2018/12/05/the-essential-importance-of-trust-how-to-build-it-or-restore-it/?sh=5f261f4764fe