The Jesse Butler Pattern: Charm, Control & the Darkness Behind Closed Doors

Jesse Butler wasn’t the monster people warn their daughters about. He was the boyfriend parents trusted. Flowers, church, country clubs, family dinners — the whole Norman Rockwell starter kit. And according to investigators, behind that perfectly polished image was a pattern of calculated violence that nearly killed two teenage girls. In this interview, retired FBI Special Agent Robin Dreeke breaks down how someone like Butler operates in plain sight — how predators build charm, weaponize trust, and calibrate threats to keep victims silent. We walk through the behavioral markers, the escalation from love-bombing to violence, and why strangulation is one of the most chilling predictors of future lethal behavior. We also look at the bodycam moment where Butler’s mother immediately coaches him — and what that interaction reveals about the ecosystem that allows someone this dangerous to thrive. And as Stacy points out, strangulation requires sustained, intentional effort. What does that tell us about motive, psychology, and risk moving forward? If you’re a parent, guardian, or young adult — this is a conversation you cannot afford to skip. #JesseButlerCase #RobinDreeke #BehavioralAnalysis #TrueCrimePodcast #HiddenKillers #TonyBrueski #DatingViolence #VictimSupport #StrangulationRisk #JusticeForSurvivors Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/@hiddenkillerspod Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/ Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspod X Twitter https://x.com/tonybpod Listen Ad-Free On Apple Podcasts Here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/true-crime-today-premium-plus-ad-free-advance-episode/id1705422872